This is one of those addictions like reading Miss Manners every Friday or reading more about other people than writing out my stories on my own blog. I still have to get the hang of posting 'interesting' bits about my life instead of playing them out in my head and keeping them there. But until then, I'm getting super encouraged by all the writers on my blog list and this blog on MSN.com called
http://living.msn.com/love-relationships/my-married-life-blog/
I keep replaying my life with P as I'm reading about different things that the couples Dave and Stephanie (live-in partners) and Jack and Holly (married couple) put up on the blog. I feel like I get what they're talking about - whether its a Match.com for couples or Dave's dislike of gyms, travails of breaking up, buying an "in a relationship" status for 5 dollars, or even their take on Heidi and Seal's divorce. I love the fresh topics and their honest, often funny opinions. Makes for a great morning read.
Basically I'm glad to hear couples talking about things other than cooking, their husbands/kids, their parents and then running out of steam and escaping into the kitchen until a fresh topic is thought of or the TV is switched on - which just about ends any ongoing convo. I am tired of going to people's houses (sometimes for an overnight, very uncomfortable stay), running out of conversation by 9 o clock and just staying up watching a random movie until 12 or 1 am feeling really bored. I tried telling her frankly that I don't mind spending a whole day with her but we'd rather come back home later. She agreed and when my husband had this same conversation with her husband he said why dont you come over and we'll see. I can see it now, he'll probably have a two-year old tantrum to keep us from leaving although we know we'll just have an awful time. Anyway, we dont want this couple to hate us so I think we'll play it safe and go way early in the morning and take the last bus out if need be. Let's see if our requests work face to face.
This reminds me of a friend who said its so hard to find a couple that's more of an intellectual match with them and I thought this wasn't a very fair statement at the time. I thought people nice enough to have a good time hanging around with was enough but honestly, I can see the merit of at least once a week or twice, having a conversation you can remember fondly or coming across something and not being able to wait until you share it with someone. These things were easier when I was single and worked in an office. After I got married, we don't find enough people who we can talk to about movies, the library, books, our experiences here. I should probably look them up online and have a cyber (that word still sounds nasty) chat with other couples out there. Or use that Match.com website!